Statistics say that 25% of the worlds population are on medication for mental illness.
This is really a scary state, it means that the remaining 75% are running around with no medication at all !!!
25 cases of suicides and still counting, in the last 14 days in a small city called Mumbai in India. Sounds like an alarming state of human existence, isn’t it? Clinical psychologists, life counsellors, psychoanalysts’, psychologists, parents, everyone is working on this dehumanizing infection called depression and they are all busy presenting superficial solutions that either fit into their professional deliverables or they end up recommending a quick drug that would display a tangible difference in the affected person within few days itself.
In this fast moving world, a ruthless world filled with anxiety, insecurity, chaos, cruelty and competition – depression is hovering over humanity and is threateningly prevailing in every existing society like the common cold. The dark clouds of depression engulf almost every individual on this planet. It infuses a strange feeling into their being that would drown them into deep states that devour the true reality of existence. What am I living for? What is the purpose of life? No one cares for me; my existence is not significant at all, if these questions brush you ever in life, you are all set to embark on a journey of desperation.
Don’t misunderstand depression with desperation. It is important for us to understand desperation first, rather than depression. If desperation is the womb, depression is the child. Depression can only be born out of a desperation, else depression can never exist. A time comes in everyone’s life, when a kind of drowning feeling creeps into your being and suddenly memories of all the pains, sufferings, setbacks, miseries and intense emotions of your past lashes into your mind like an avalanche and drags you deeper and deeper into the abyss of miseries until you lose all the desire to live. A strange emptiness that is devoid of all feelings overpowers your sane mind and uproots the sacred tree called life. Definitely, every individual experiences this feeling at least for a split second in his life, but what differentiates most of us from the ones tagged as depressed is that in such moments, we fight back with these drowning emotions called desperation to gain back our equilibrium , but not everyone succeeds in this fight. 99% of humanity is in a state of desperation in some way or the other. Now this desperation can appear in various forms; craving for success, women, pleasure, wealth, possessions, power, designations, status, dominance etc and they are all just different forms of desperation.
Desperation usually has its roots in deep seated psychological factors such as your upbringing, parental relationships, relationship with friends, siblings and parents, your childhood traumas and fantasies. Desperation is not a new disease at all, at least to the eastern world. The Vedas and the Upanishads written over ten thousand years back addresses every kind of desperation that can possibly attack your being and they have documented as to how to overpower this illness through yoga sutras to dhyaana sutras or meditation, however the modern society is strangely ignorant to these sutras. Nerve numbing drugs never appear in any of the texts as a remedy for desperation though its effects are quick and substantial.
With the rapid advancement of technology and cultures vanishing like an evening cloud, the modern man has really misunderstood life’s journey to a blind marathon. Every individual is on a ruthless run, in an attempt to amass wealth, to achieve material possessions and comforts. Now who is responsible for this blind runner? Your parents, your teachers, your society every body has their share of shaping you into a blind runner. Every parent wants their child to be the 1st in his class. Winning is appreciated, that’s fine, but the sad part is the losing is strongly condemned. So the child only knows that he has to win, if he loses he will be condemned, so he has a great fear, a phobia of losing, of failing. Naturally the child tries to identify himself with success, with victories and hence every child is trying to cling to this state.
Unfortunately nature is indifferent to all these modernizations and advancements. Nature has its own way of bringing in balance and equilibrium. A day for a night, a summer for a winter, a life for a death and it goes on. Man has lost his connect with nature, the modern man has only learnt to manage success and when nature brings in failure he refuses to face it, he denies to shake hands with failure, he has not learnt the art of embracing failure, so he tries to cling to success, he tries to hold on to it, he wants to possess it and when truth hits him, it hits him hard, then he becomes desperate.
When you are in a state of desperation, you become weak from inside, your mental faculty becomes drained and so you try to look for external strength, for external support and you try to identify yourself with the external. This is what I call – Identification. You ignore your self, your core, your inner strength and you try to cling to the external. You feel a strange emptiness within you and you are desperate to fill that emptiness. Now you have made yourself vulnerable even to the whistling wind. Whoever comes across your life can overpower you now. Now Sex, Wealth, Power, Status, Ranks, Alcohol, Drugs, all these ordinary worldly objects are needed to fill this emptiness. An ordinary woman can be more than your life to you now. Your unrealistic dreams can be more important than your life now. Life takes a back seat and your worldly identifications blankets it in such a away that even you are unable to see the reality – your life.
Wealth, fame, possessions, status, degrees, designations are all worldly identifications, nothing else. Detachment from these identifications will make us desperate and hence we are all desperate to continue life in this current state, losing them is unimaginable, coz we have a deep rooted phobia of losing. That is why you will find those celebrities, film stars, politicians, famous personalities or even an ordinary cop becoming a prey to depression early in their lives. They cannot drop their identification, their power, their life style, their fame, they cling to it, but a day comes when they have to face the reverse side of his identification too, some will have to part away with their beloved, some with will have to part ways with the top spot, fame, wealth, luxury and then they become desperate and through this desperation, they slowly but surely enter into the world of depression.
Identifying yourself with anything by dishonouring your precious self is desperation. Living a life of complete acceptance is the only way to get rid of desperation. What is with you is yours now, what is not with you is not yours anymore. The woman who was with you till yesterday is not with you today, the designation you held until yesterday is not valid anymore today, the dream that you were carrying till yesterday is shattered into pieces today, the child whom you loved more than your life doesn’t love you anymore, accept it, embrace it and celebrate. Gather courage to face adversities; for every darkness there is a light, for every night there is a day. Drop all your cravings of being identified; search for happiness in your current state of living and you will realize how wonderful a journey is this, which we call – life. No need to run this race, walk gracefully, enjoy everything that is on the way. In between, once in a while, stop on the way, relax, look within, look for peace, look for silence, meditate and taste the nectar of life. Once you have a taste of the nectar, no desperation, no depression can exist around you.
Its time for an awakening in our lives, its time we raise our consciousness to a superior level where there is no race, no blindness, no competition but a graceful acceptance of everything. Understanding and accepting that losses, failures and adversities are mere phases of life can help life take precedence over all worldly identifications. As you celebrate for your accomplishments, embrace your failures too. Remember the life saving adage – This too shall pass. Everything is temporary, only life is permanent, life is precious and you cannot escape life. Managing this life is your responsibility and only a life well lived offers you a possibility of a moksha (liberation) from the eternal wheel of life and death. Welcome to the world of conscious living.